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Greetings to all — and I am here to tell you that when the Universe led me to the Crones Counsel it pointed me in the right direction! We had our first Atlanta Crones Council gathering last week and I am really pumped. I have met some great crones, and am looking forward to being part of the dynamic, powerful circle of women I know we can become.

Crop Circle

Speaking of circles, did you know that the circle is one of nature’s most common shapes, has been around since before the beginning of recorded history, and that humans have been gathering in circles for thousands of years?

The circle is an ancient form of meeting that served as the foundation for many cultures. Circles are still used around the world today, creating communities where common ground is established and embraced. By its nature, a circle resists the hierarchy and status that order our everyday lives. The circle itself is structured so that all perspectives and stories are accorded equal space and value, with each participant both receiving and contributing to the group’s collective wisdom.

Celtic Circle

Wisdom circles are revered as healing places where powerful energy is generated and circulated among the participants. C. G. Jung called circles “the archetype of wholeness and divinity.” There is a sacred dimension to a wisdom circle, whether intentionally called for a spiritual purpose or not. A circle of sisters can support us as we endeavor to bring Spirit into our lives and develop deeper relationships with ourselves, others, and the Source of all life. Within a circle we can safely explore and discern how we want to be in the world, often for the first time in our lives. A circle can empower us with the courage to heal wounds of loss, illness, abuse, and neglect. It lends us strength, allowing us to listen to and honor opposing views, reconcile differences, forgive and offer forgiveness. In a circle we may share our dreams and visions, give voice to our fears, and discover the best in ourselves.

Circles inspire both individual and collective reflection, and each circle will experience outcomes as unique as the members themselves. Although not always comfortable, circles provide spaces that are safe and supportive enough to encourage revelation and risk. What transforms a “meeting” into a “circle” is the willingness of its members to shift from informal socializing or opinionated discussion into a receptive attitude of thoughtful speaking and deep listening—from the heart, the spirit, and the soul.

I have great expectations for this crone circle experience. I intend to make friends, find role models, get to know myself on a deeper level, learn to listen with my heart, find a purpose for my life, honor my sisters with heartfelt and quiet listening, and help them in whatever other way I can. I am excited, eager, and maybe just a little apprehensive. We have such potential, such power to create something significant and mutually sustaining.

I’d be interested to know about your circle experiences.


This Old Crone

Women’s Leadership Circles Handbook

Wisdom Circles (http://www.wisdomcircle.org)

PeerSpirit (www.peeerspirit.com handout ©2001 Baldwin/Linnea, extracted from Calling the Circle, the First and Future Culture by Christina Baldwin, Bantam 1998)

Additional Suggested Resources for Calling a Circle:

The Millionth Circle (http://www.millionthcircle.org)

Spirit in Action (http://spiritinaction.net)

Institute for Circlework (http://www.instituteforcirclework.org)


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My name is Chris Kell, and I am This Old Crone.

Life is about stories, and the purpose of this blog is mostly just to let me talk about my experiences, express my thoughts, and share whatever wisdom I have gained over the years. If anyone out there in webland reads what This Old Crone writes, I will feel blessed. If anyone is actually interested enough to respond, I’ll be ecstatic. My hope is to create a forum where other people — other Crones — can feel comfortable telling their stories and sharing their own hard-won wisdom.

I think it is appropriate that I’ve started This Old Crone now. It is International Women’s Day, and since March is Women’s History Month, I will start by focusing on women: those I’ve loved, those who have been important to me, and those whom I want to know more about — women whose stories I want to share with you.

The first Crone I want to introduce is my mother-in-law. Miss Tee was a true Southern lady, gentle, polite, and loving. I never heard her say an unkind word about anyone. She always supported me, and made me feel like I was a part of her family.

Miss Tee

The first time I met Miss Tee was awkward. My husband-to-be, her son, had not really prepared his family for me. He was in the process of a divorce, and his first wife had been close to his family. They did not quite know what to do with me. But Tee welcomed me warmly, and included me as part of her clan. From that day on I adored her.

Through the years we became close. It was Miss Tee who came to help when our children were born, who passed on favorite family recipes, taught me how to cook “Southern style.” She never forgot a birthday or anniversary and came to visit often; I always looked forward to her arrival. And boy, did she love her soaps! It was as much fun catching up on her TV family as it was listening to her read family letters while telling me who each member was, how they were related, and all the little details that made me feel like I was one of them.

Miss Tee took care of her mother Lizzy until she passed on (a story for another time), and I looked forward to when I could do the same for her. We were ready and eager for her to come live with us and had it all planned out; she would move in right after Christmas. Sadly, Tee never made it, as she became ill and made her final journey a couple of months later.

I miss Tee more than words can express. I am sure you all know the feeling. She was my role-model, my surrogate mother, my friend. Thinking of her now still brings tears along with all the fond memories and happiness for having known and loved her.


This Old Crone

*My thanks to Crones Counsel for the definition of “crone”.

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