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Change and Balance

Wow, how time flies! It seems like just yesterday I was posting my last blog, getting ready for this one. And yet, it has been several weeks. It does not seem possible!

In the meantime, I have been thinking a lot about the relationship between change and balance — how it is possible to change my habits and still maintain balance in my life. Or maybe I should say, change my habits and restore the balance in my life. What do I mean by this? Simply that I want to live my best life fully and mindfully on every level of my being: mental, spiritual, physical, and emotional.

Hmm . . . well . . . maybe achieving balance is not so simple after all. For example, what do I mean when I say I want to live my life “fully and mindfully”? In this case the answer really is simple: I want my life to be as happy, fulfilled and meaningful as I can make it by being present in each and every moment.

But how do I do this, and exactly what does it mean to be in balance? The answers to these questions may take a little more thought.

When I am trying to get clear on a concept, I usually go to the dictionary first and so that’s where I headed when I started writing this post. I found several meanings for balance as both noun and verb at Dictionary.com, including:

  1. a state of equilibrium, or something that brings about such a state;
  2. a mental steadiness or emotional stability;
  3. the act of weighing factors, quantities, etc, against each other;
  4. harmony in the parts of a whole (as in an artistic composition);
  5. to produce an aesthetically pleasing or harmoniously integrated whole;
  6. to move in rhythm to and from; to move forward and backward or in opposite directions (as in dance).

I have to admit, I had not consciously thought about all these different variations on the meaning of balance. However, I like them all and would like to incorporate each one into my own personal definition. For me then, balance is a mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual state of equilibrium that weighs each part of the whole and moves in a steady rhythm to produce a harmoniously integrated whole.

Whew! That’s quite a mouthful! Thomas Merton1 says it much more succinctly: “Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.”

In striving to attain balance on any level, I believe it is our thoughts even more than our actions that determine what sort of vibrational energy we send out and what we can expect in return. In other words, whatever changes we decide to embrace, be they large or small, our thoughts about the change are as important as the actual behavioral or situational modification.

While doing a little research for this blog post I came across a web site I really enjoy. It is called Evolving Stacey: Where my story unfolds . . . by Stacey Hoffer Weckstein. According to Stacey (and I agree), if the anticipated change and your thoughts associated with that change do not make you feel good, the change will not be beneficial to you and you will be out of balance across the many areas of your life.

But sometimes, no matter how hard we try to stay balanced we can find ourselves lolling about in the doldrums. As Stacey puts it, “In life, at one time or another, we all find ourselves in a life balance slump.” She illustrates her point in a fun way with this excerpt from Oh, the Places You’ll Go! by Dr. Seuss2: 

 Oh, the Places You’ll Go!

You’ll be on your way up! You’ll be seeing great sights!
You’ll join the high fliers, who soar to high heights.

You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have the speed.
You’ll pass the whole gang and you’ll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you’ll be the best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don’t. Because, sometimes, you won’t.
I’m sorry to say so but, sadly, it’s true
and Hang-ups can happen to you.

You can get all hung up in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on. You’ll be left in a Lurch.

You’ll come down from the Lurch with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then, that you’ll be in a Slump.

And when you’re in a Slump, you’re not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.” 

Stacey also quotes author Stephen R. Covey, who says that “Voice is the overlapping of the four parts of our nature: our mind, our heart, our body, and our spirit.”  She suggests one way to lift yourself out of the slump and restore your equilibrium on all four levels is to find your voice, and then ask yourself “How am I balancing the different parts of my voice?” The following four questions may help you both discover your own voice and find the balance in your life:

Mental/ Mind: What am I good at?
Physical/ Body: What need can I serve?
Emotional/ Heart: What do I love doing?
Spiritual/ Spirit:   What is life asking of me? What gives my life meaning and purpose? What do I feel like I should be doing? What is my conscience directing me to do? 

To help you get going, here are a few more thoughts on balance:

“Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.”
Brian Tracy (American television host)

“I always try to balance the light with the heavy – a few tears of human spirit in with the sequins and the fringes.”
Bette Midler (Actor and comedian)

“Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.”
Barbara de Angelis (American researcher on relationships and personal growth)

And finally, click here to download Stacey’s free e-book How to Practice the Art of Life Balance, a collection of inspiring life balance resources and stories.


This Old Crone

1.  Thomas Merton,  Trappist Monk, Our Lady of Gethsemani Abbey in Trappist, Kentucky, 1915-1968.

2. Geisel, Theodor Seuss. Random House January 22, 1990


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A friend asked me once what a “vibration” is. I discovered my understanding of the concept was more an intangible, intuitive “knowing” than a material, concrete idea that could be expressed in words. So I had to give the question some thought before I was able to give her an explanation of what I mean when I talk about vibrations.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language includes one definition of vibration as “A distinctive emotional aura or atmosphere regarded as being instinctively sensed or experienced.” A more technical definition comes from the American Heritage® Science Dictionary as “A rapid oscillation of a particle, particles, or elastic solid or surface, back and forth across a central position.” My Microsoft Word thesaurus lists a vibration as a rhythm, pulsing, or quivering. And, according to WordNet 3.0, Farlex clipart collection online thesaurus, variations of the word “vibration” include:

  • Motion: a state of change
  • Natural philosophy and/or physics: the science of matter and energy and their interactions
  • Ripple: (electronics) an oscillation of small amplitude imposed on top of a steady value
  • Transient: (physics) a short-lived oscillation in a system caused by a sudden change of voltage or current
  • Vibration: a distinctive emotional aura experienced instinctively
  • Air, aura, atmosphere: a distinctive but intangible quality surrounding a person or thing

To me, a vibration is the ethereal energy created when you think any thought. More specifically, a vibration is the energetic relationship between that thought and the Universal Mind, or Spirit.

It makes no difference to the Universal Mind if the focus of your thought is something you believe is beneficial (such as, “I desire an abundance of money” or “I want to lose weight”) or something you do not want (“I don’t want to gain weight” or “I am afraid of getting the flu”). Whenever you create any thought, that thought in turn creates an energetic vibration.

Each vibration is only as strong as the amount of energy given to it. In other words, the more you focus on a thought the stronger its vibration; the less you focus on it the weaker the thought is, no matter whether you focus on something you want, or something you do not want. And, because the nature of the Universe is to keep all energy in balance, it responds to your vibration in direct proportion to what it receives.

Once you create this energy, your thought process intensifies or weakens the vibration, and correspondingly, intensifies or weakens the Universe’s response. This process applies equally to what we consider positive thoughts (focusing on what we desire) and negative thoughts (what we do not want).

For example, if you begin to imagine yourself actually experiencing the results of whatever you are thinking about, the vibration changes (oscillates) in proportion to the energy you invest in your image. Moreover, if you attach feeling to your image, the vibration will be strengthened in direct proportion to the strength of the emotion. For example, if you are trying to loose weight and you think to yourself “I’d really like to loose a few pounds,” you create a simple vibration that goes out to the Universe. But this is an unfocused thought with no real power that the Universe may have heard from you many times, and so nothing much happens. However, when you begin to focus your thought and imagine  yourself a few pounds lighter, you send out a vibration that is slightly more concrete.  The Universe pays a little more attention to the energy it feels coming from you, and  you consequently loose a few pounds. Next, you add emotion to the image you  create–in other words, in your mind you actually experience how much lighter your body is,  you see yourself wearing your “skinny” clothes, you feel confident and attractive,  you hear the compliments you receive from others and savor the pleasure you derive from their words. By attaching imagination and emotion to your simple thought, you have created a vibration that is even more powerful. You send out an energy that is so compelling that the Universe cannot help but respond in kind! In order to keep itself in balance, the Universe transforms the energy of your vibrations (your thoughts strengthened by your imagination and emotions) into physical matter. It creates the circumstances you need to realize the manifestation of your desire.

Conversely, if you give no conscious focus to thoughts you believe are beneficial to you, you release the energy attached to those thoughts. Their vibrations diminish and eventually evaporate because you have not invested enough energy to keep them alive. So, if wishing you could lose weight is as far as you take that thought, you will not lose weight.

On the other hand, if you dismiss any thoughts you deem unbeneficial to you and give them no conscious focus, those vibrations will fade away as well. Your thoughts, and therefore what you create, have no vibrations without your conscious focus to give them energy. If an unwanted thought comes to the surface of your mind, simply distract your mind with another thought, an image to which you have attached strong emotion and desire. It is important to refuse to let your mind dwell on unwanted thoughts. Be aware of what you think about, and consciously choose your thoughts in order to direct their energy into vibrations that will create the results you desire. In other words, think only thoughts that make you feel good.

When you consciously choose your thoughts, you will begin to choose only those thoughts and feelings that are beneficial to you and make you feel good, and ignore those that are not. In addition, you must have faith that the Universe always responds to every vibration. Be persistent in your belief that Universe will manifest your desire, and support that belief by developing a conscious plan of action.

This thought process requires conscious effort on both the spiritual and physical planes. Fortunately, there are many ways to help yourself develop the strength of mind and spirit necessary to focus your thoughts on what you want. Meditation and/or centered prayer, autosuggestion (the repetition of aspirations designed specifically to create your desire), and visualization are great self-help tools. Moreover, there are a multitude of books, cd’s, workshops, and seminars available–you just have to keep reading and listening until one of them strikes a chord with you.

I also believe it is imperative to surround yourself with others who believe as you do. Coming together with like-minded people generates spiritual energy–what Napoleon Hill (in his book Think and Grow Rich) calls a coordinated spirit of harmony. This, in turn, creates an affinity between the human mind and the Universal Mind and makes possible the transformation of energy into matter.

Most importantly, pay attention to your heart. Do not listen to the negative thoughts of other people, or let others tell you what is right for you. Heed your own intuition, as your inner self already knows the answer to every question. And finally, choose your thoughts carefully, allowing in only thoughts that make you feel good. As Napoleon says: “All individuals have become what they are because of their DOMINATING THOUGHTS AND DESIRES.”


This Old Crone

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